It's not difficult to chose your words carefully. It just isn't. 'Slut' is a curse word. There's no 'positive' use for it. I'm obviously not stating 'outlaw the word' because it IS just a word in that sense, no word is so terrible as to be something 'prosecutable' (Most ANYTHING in the world isn't so terrible as to need to be prosecutable) but that doesn't mean there aren't words that have little or no value to a society or culture. The only use for 'Slut' is to shame someone, (obviously it gets used HERE more than other places as a tool in narrative fiction and such which is perfectly acceptable use of curses and such IMO) but in terms of lobbying it AT someone, which is 'sluts' only legitimate usage (and the usage by which characters in our narratives lobby it against other characters), it is almost always entirely oppressive. So again, when I say 'we SHOULD all stop using it' don't read that as 'It ought to be outlawed!' I'm simply saying that it would be a happier world if more people found more constructive ways to make their arguments with people than to resort to a basically useless shaming tool in the hopes that it'll get them to 'shut up' rather than express themselves.
I was just watching a video with Kendra James - one of those typical daughter-and-unrelated-stepmom-have-hot-lesbian-sex ones - where Kendra berates the younger actress for taking pictures of her asshole and sending them to boys. Kendra calls her a "slut" for doing so. Now, do you really think that is inaccurate, or outside the definition of what the term means? Of course not, it's perfect. And if a boy did the exact same thing, he'd be a slut for doing it - doesn't even matter straight or gay.
See this is exactly what I'm talking about. No doubt sending pics of your asshole to boys is a STUPID move... but no, a boy is NOT called a slut for doing the exact same thing, in fact men are almost NEVER called a slut. Sure 'Carlos Danger' gets caught with dickpicks in his cellphone and he gets a lot of heat because he's a POLITICIAN, but by and large male's get the 'boys will be boys' treatment here. I know a dozen guys who'd all slap their buddies shoulder and call him a legend for that sort of thing (To be clear I don't think this is necessarily even WRONG, it's just unbalanced.) I mean, if someone WANTS to send pictures of their asshole to someone who wants them, it's no one elses frigging business, and certainly not their place to judge (A parent maybe, to teach, but no one else.) We're ALL fucked up in our own way, and none of us want other people judging us for the things we do that would be commonly judged out in the open. The point is, Yes, 'Slut' has a definition and yes it specifically means something, I'm proposing simply that the 'idea' that it defines is an oppressive one that only hurts and never helps.
By singling out one demographic of sexual culture we are sort of agreeing by proxy that we are all just deranged sluts and sexist pigs here for our own fetish, by saying 'this person is a slut for doing this thing that I personally find gross' you're sort of passively presenting the environment whereby we may as well ALL be sluts, because we are all depraved in something. We fetishize the abuse, humiliation or sexual torment of heroic women... THATS what WE do, it's not any 'better' or 'worse' than someone who sends pictures of their asshole to someone who wants it. It's just different. (Seems you probably mostly agree with me on this)
You can tell it's somewhat of a haphazard system because today there was a piece on the Standing Rock protestors having "tunnel vision" (they literally feel that their cause is apocalyptic and will determine the future of humanity on this planet, which is a bit of an exaggeration) and pledging not to vote because they're sick of both political parties and have undergone "trauma" (a sentiment that, as I've said on this forum before, is echoed by millennials). The Guardian had opened the comment section by mistake, let one or two comments through, and then closed it. Because Bob Forbid someone should express an opposing opinion labeling the protestors as short-sighted or impetuously naive, or whatever (I'm not saying they are, but it's a valid opinion someone could express), but due to political correctness one cannot do so since it might show lack of respect and reverence for a punched-down culture that, by the way, doesn't allow women to attend its sacred ceremonies.
This sort of circles around to my MAIN point of this entire thread... Everything said in my last post was more of an 'observational addition' to what I'd put before and not really advocating for something or making any kind of agenda or 'push.' We make more out of everything in America than it's worth. We are entirely reactionary, and so the conspiracy theories fly. A plain flies into the Two Towers, certainly a dispicalbe act of terror but one solitary act that America has suffered in hundreds of years while all of Europe is PLAGUED by them yearly, and we respond as though it's the end of the world, give up DOZENS of freedoms and now we can't go to the airport without a stick getting rammed up our asses while the 'Patriot Act' looms over all. On the smaller scale: A woman wears pants in a comic book, we cry the end of the world and the death of sex....
Mellissa's breasts are a little smaller this season of Supergirl? Well obviously there must be some demonized agenda behind it!