SHIP revelation?

[emile]

Here’s a question: do any of your family, close friends, or partners know about your SHIP fetish?

Is this something you’re comfortable in revealing without shame or risking judgment? Or, will you take this fetish of ours to this grave?

[DonShip]

Short answer: NO. And no. Take it the grave, baby.

[TheWatcher]

That's a good question... I think my family and close friends may have a vague idea that I'm a fan of superheroes and maybe Supergirl. My girlfriends that I've had over the years definitely know I'm a fan of Supergirl! None of them know how deep it goes though... That part is probably going to the grave with me. lol

[SHL]

Here’s a question: do any of your family, close friends, or partners know about your SHIP fetish?

Is this something you’re comfortable in revealing without shame or risking judgment? Or, will you take this fetish of ours to this grave?

Everyone I’ve dated or courted knows (only ever had like 2 girls ever be put off by it, but we weren’t in a relationship, so it ended there)

Close friends know, most of them don’t care, if anything they couldn’t care less,

Family? No I don’t tell my family what I’m into sexually, just like my parents don’t tell me how they fuck.

I think most people “get” it. Most women love Michelle P as Catwoman or Barbie as Harley Quinn. Margo R popularized Harley into a very successfully Halloween costume back when suicide squad dropped. A lot of women find Batman hot. A lot of women also enjoy “forced fantasy” stuff with their partners

How much shame you feel will impact how you explain this info to other people and they will respond to your shame, not your fetish. It’s IMO a rather light hearted fetish to have, as the comic book implication deflates the SHIP tone that can seem to serious

[TheVillain]

no, not yet.

[swampy170]

Personally I'd describe it as a kink not a fetish - interesting but not essential.

It's easy when a lot of close friends are already models - pretty much just talking shop. Outside "the industry" not commonly discussed personally. I'm British, we don't even like to talk about serious ailments let alone sex.

Family - I don't discuss sexual preferences with at all, no.

[spandex4fun]

Nope. Hell, I don’t even discuss my spandex kinks, especially since I coming be content that nobody upside of the web share similar kinks/fantasy.

[DrObiCaffi]

A LOT of people know I have a Superheroine fetish as I used to work in radio and mentioned that my wife will dress as Supergirl for me every few years. But that's as far as they know. It stops WAY before the "peril" aspect of it. I will do my best to keep that a secret.

[HeroineFanboyReturns]

Not only does my girlfriend know, we regularly act out superheroine peril scenarios.

[ThatOnePervert]

I feel like my parents could probably guess that I'm attracted to superheroines, but the peril and bondage stuff is my business and I don't see any reason to tell anyone I'd meet IRL unless I was dating them.

[drh1966]

Just a few past girlfriends and my wife. I was surprised by how receptive some women were to the idea of dressing up and role playing. It really changed my life in that regard as vanilla sex just isn't my thing. It obviously isn't something that you bring up on a first date, but once you're dating and sexually active with that person, it's amazing how often she will entertain the idea. Some women enjoy being dominated in the bedroom and they like the enthusiasm in your sexual performance when you're getting what you want. I just wish I had of had the confidence to ask for it years before.

[TheVillain]

Not only does my girlfriend know, we regularly act out superheroine peril scenarios.

Wow... that would be a dream!

[spandex4fun]

Not only does my girlfriend know, we regularly act out superheroine peril scenarios.

Living the dream.

[luther]

At 62 years old, I have only told girlfriends when I felt the time was right ... usually in a few months. I've had a few who were really into it and were happy to dress as WW or SG ... but haven't stuck with them long term. Others not at all. Have yet to get any of them in the real peril perfection ... and of course always play acting ... I could never really hurt someone.

In terms of family ... no. Have thought about it but have yet to go there. I think it would explain to them why I've stayed single all these years .. where I can have Lynda Carter as WW or other SH hotties any time I want .. vs the good and bad that comes with a steady girlfriend or eventual wife. I always have said "I'm too picky". Now that I'm getting a little older ... have even wondered if I should purge some of my collections .. God forbid I kick the bucket and my siblings have to go through my stuff. Hope I find WW & SG in heaven if I do!

I've always kind of blamed Lynda Carter as WW for not ever starting a family. I was 14 for season one and remember my knees going weak when she got Ko'd by the Barroness. Hooked ever since! For a little history, I remember when computers first came out along with the internet .., saw Mr. X's first post ... and realized for the first time it wasn't just me out there.

Luther

[McGheeny]

I have been fortunate enough to have girlfriends starting with my senior year in high school, through college, and afterwards, who were into different levels of SHIP. They have all contributed in some way to the heroines and stories I have created throughout the years. Through role playing or just talking about SHIP situations and adventures, I was amazed at how eager and in most cases enthusiastic my partners were with the idea. Not all girl's will be into all of our fantasies but thank goodness there are those who are. A special thanks goes out to all of those lovely promiscuous ladies. But a special thanks goes out to my blonde hair, blue eyed, tan, athletically tone, long legged beach girl who has been, and still is, my muse, and inspiration for my Kara Zor El.

[TheVillain]

At 62 years old, I have only told girlfriends when I felt the time was right ... usually in a few months. I've had a few who were really into it and were happy to dress as WW or SG ... but haven't stuck with them long term. Others not at all. Have yet to get any of them in the real peril perfection ... and of course always play acting ... I could never really hurt someone.

In terms of family ... no. Have thought about it but have yet to go there. I think it would explain to them why I've stayed single all these years .. where I can have Lynda Carter as WW or other SH hotties any time I want .. vs the good and bad that comes with a steady girlfriend or eventual wife. I always have said "I'm too picky". Now that I'm getting a little older ... have even wondered if I should purge some of my collections .. God forbid I kick the bucket and my siblings have to go through my stuff. Hope I find WW & SG in heaven if I do!

I've always kind of blamed Lynda Carter as WW for not ever starting a family. I was 14 for season one and remember my knees going weak when she got Ko'd by the Barroness. Hooked ever since! For a little history, I remember when computers first came out along with the internet .., saw Mr. X's first post ... and realized for the first time it wasn't just me out there.

Luther

The same for me when I found online this stuff, I wasn't the only crazy guy after all! XD.

[batgirl1969]

Pretty safe to say my friends know VERY well, family besides siblings and one cousin, No

[Femina]

My opinion on this always has been, and remains, that unless you notice your partner having some kind of interest in this or deliberately asks you/is participating in some sort of 'lets deep dive into one another's kinks' etc... keep your fantasies and fetishes (and I mean ALL of them) largely to yourself. The grand reality is, most people don't care about your fetishes, and most don't even WANT to know about them either. Consider to yourself, how often you've actively pondered seriously asking one of your friends about 'how' they go about getting sexual gratification, vs like, what you normally chat about and want to talk about... that same lack of interest extends the other way. Unless sex is inherent in the relationship to begin with, it's not likely a topic of discussion the relationship needs to thrive, and can actively damage it sometimes.

Obviously this doesn't factor for a space like HERE where friendships and such spark up over the shared fetish... or similar 'irl' spaces where such sorts of friendships crop up. Generally ask yourself, 'was sex or the discussion of sex ever a thing that this relationship was built upon?' If the answer is No, best keep it that way. If the answer is yes, well, that's a whole other matter.

[SHL]

My opinion on this always has been, and remains, that unless you notice your partner having some kind of interest in this or deliberately asks you/is participating in some sort of 'lets deep dive into one another's kinks' etc... keep your fantasies and fetishes (and I mean ALL of them) largely to yourself.

I implore everyone to ignore this advice

IMO - You shouldn't officially be dating someone before you've been open about what you are into. Why live in a prison when most partners are accepting and accommodating to their loved ones interests. And if you share what you are into to someone you are courting and they reject it - Don't date that person

Sex is a normal part of life, you aren't punishing your significant other by being honest about who you are and what you desire

[awsman]

My opinion on this always has been, and remains, that unless you notice your partner having some kind of interest in this or deliberately asks you/is participating in some sort of 'lets deep dive into one another's kinks' etc... keep your fantasies and fetishes (and I mean ALL of them) largely to yourself. The grand reality is, most people don't care about your fetishes, and most don't even WANT to know about them either. Consider to yourself, how often you've actively pondered seriously asking one of your friends about 'how' they go about getting sexual gratification, vs like, what you normally chat about and want to talk about... that same lack of interest extends the other way. Unless sex is inherent in the relationship to begin with, it's not likely a topic of discussion the relationship needs to thrive, and can actively damage it sometimes.

Obviously this doesn't factor for a space like HERE where friendships and such spark up over the shared fetish... or similar 'irl' spaces where such sorts of friendships crop up. Generally ask yourself, 'was sex or the discussion of sex ever a thing that this relationship was built upon?' If the answer is No, best keep it that way. If the answer is yes, well, that's a whole other matter.

I'm very much not understanding your actual position here. You start the post off advising people to keep this kink/fetish a secret even from their romantic partner unless said partner gives some indication they might be interested in it. But then you switch to talking about not sharing it with friends, or anyone whose relationship isn't built on sex or the discussion of it. So ... do you honestly believe that most romantic relationships aren't built largely on sex? Bringing up a SHIP fetish with your girlfriend is a pretty far cry from bringing it up with a buddy, but you seem to be equating the two as more or less the same thing except in rare circumstances, when the opposite should be true for most people.

[SHL]

I'm very much not understanding your actual position here. You start the post off advising people to keep this kink/fetish a secret even from their romantic partner unless said partner gives some indication they might be interested in it. But then you switch to talking about not sharing it with friends, or anyone whose relationship isn't built on sex or the discussion of it. So ... do you honestly believe that most romantic relationships aren't built largely on sex? Bringing up a SHIP fetish with your girlfriend is a pretty far cry from bringing it up with a buddy, but you seem to be equating the two as more or less the same thing except in rare circumstances, when the opposite should be true for most people.

Its not that you arent understanding it, its that it actually makes no sense.

Essentially its stating 'dont share your fetish with your partner unless they have leading questions about fetish' BUT - if your partner takes the same advice they also won't asking leading questions about fetish until you do.

It's the equivalent of saying 'Never tell someone you like them unless they tell you first'. If everyone took that advice... humanity would cease to exist.

[sneakly]

To some people their fetish is going to be a part of their lives and they are going to look for a partner that is willing to share it. For others, it isn't. I write my stories and have played a little when I was married, but I was never really interested in making it central to my relationships. Reality seldom reaches the expectation of fantasy. I like to listen to the interviews they do with the models on Kink.com. The female performers who are really into BDSM readily admit they come nowhere near what they do on screen in real life. It is fun to find someone that shares your fetish, but, there are a bunch of other mundane factors that make life with another person livable. It is a personal choice of how you prioritize those things in life. I have a bunch of things I look for in a woman before her willingness to put on a Batgirl costume.

I have talked with women about sexual preferences and had one that wanted to call me daddy. she was also super excited when I brought up tying her up for sex. My exwife knew I wrote stories and we did some light bondage during sex and she liked it. Did that help our marriage or speed it's demise? I don't know. It probably had little effect one way or the other.

[Femina]

I'm very much not understanding your actual position here. You start the post off advising people to keep this kink/fetish a secret even from their romantic partner unless said partner gives some indication they might be interested in it. But then you switch to talking about not sharing it with friends, or anyone whose relationship isn't built on sex or the discussion of it. So ... do you honestly believe that most romantic relationships aren't built largely on sex? Bringing up a SHIP fetish with your girlfriend is a pretty far cry from bringing it up with a buddy, but you seem to be equating the two as more or less the same thing except in rare circumstances, when the opposite should be true for most people.

Its not that you arent understanding it, its that it actually makes no sense.

Essentially its stating 'dont share your fetish with your partner unless they have leading questions about fetish' BUT - if your partner takes the same advice they also won't asking leading questions about fetish until you do.

It's the equivalent of saying 'Never tell someone you like them unless they tell you first'. If everyone took that advice... humanity would cease to exist.

Don't be obtusely dense, you're making a mountain out of an molehill. We're all just offering our personal advice to the Author. Sharing the sexual fetishes that you've kept bottled up from your family and friends the way the thread author seems to be implying, to just telling someone you 'like them' aren't equitable concepts. I'm answering the author's question here, not presenting solutions to human coupling and baby making. That's a different conversation.

I'm very much not understanding your actual position here. You start the post off advising people to keep this kink/fetish a secret even from their romantic partner unless said partner gives some indication they might be interested in it. But then you switch to talking about not sharing it with friends, or anyone whose relationship isn't built on sex or the discussion of it. So ... do you honestly believe that most romantic relationships aren't built largely on sex? Bringing up a SHIP fetish with your girlfriend is a pretty far cry from bringing it up with a buddy, but you seem to be equating the two as more or less the same thing except in rare circumstances, when the opposite should be true for most people.

Ignore SHL, he seems to be of the opinion I'm against coupling or men and women expressing love for one another as though my opinion on this matter is an absolute across all matters of course. He's also still mad at me for disagreeing with him once so he's more liable to attack me than ask me to clarify politely like you have done. Which is fair, I didn't present my opinion very well, and wrote it out mostly late night stream of consciousness with nowhere near enough elaboration.

I'm only trying to say you should look for signs that revealing your fetish is relevant to the relationship. YEAH, to a certain extent this is a lot of work on your part, which your partner is getting off scott free over... but the onus on revealing YOUR fetish is yours to undertake to begin with... as are the consequences to suffer if it doesn't go over well, so I still advise caution. If there's NO sex in the relationship at all, it's not relevant at all and not only is it nobodies business what your fetish is, they probably don't care or even want to know what your fetishes are. If your sexual relationship wasn't BEGUN on Superheroine peril porn, than you're playing a long game that even your sexual partner has any interest in the matter either. Like as not, you and your partner ALREADY have sex stuff you do together anyway... but I'm not meaning to drop a tablet down like a commandment. ANY opinion on this matter is going to be an opinion, there's no LAWS here, which is why I expressly left open that if you're interested in telling your sexual partner, there's a lot more room for reasons you might tell them and hope for some sort of reciprocation. I simply wouldn't just 'spring' it on them one day all 'by the way, I'd like you to dress up like Supergirl so I can pretend to defeat and rape you.' (or vice versa) is the sort of fetish line liable to potentially create unnecessary friction is my general takeaway. I would wait for a sign that my partner was into some kinky shit first.

Keep in mind. There's a lot of cross traffic in certain fetish spaces, I'm not saying you should have to stand around waiting for your sexual partner to turn to you and say 'I wanna do SHiP sexy stuff!' specifically. If your partner is into most areas of the BDSM sphere, odds are they aren't going to flip the table about any of this. If your partner wants to be tied up (or tie you up) odds are they aren't going to be fussy about framing it around the theme of superheroine peril.

[SHL]

Ignore SHL, he seems to be of the opinion I'm against coupling or men and women expressing love for one another as though my opinion on this matter is an absolute across all matters of course. He's also still mad at me for disagreeing with him once so he's more liable to attack me than ask me to clarify politely like you have done.

Holy back peddling Batman, your original advice is bad advice - just own it

I can assure you I am not mad at you. But you do seem to have a way with tossing sticks into peoples spokes, so - you should expect people to call you out when you are on a fetish board giving people advice to keep their fetishes to themselves away from their partners.

[bushwackerbob]

The obvious issue is once you come out and declare this fetish of ours to people we love, admire, and respect, there is no going back, once that is out there, one can't put that genie back in the bottle. It's a big risk, big, irreversible decision. I matters a lot to me how I am perceived by others, I would never want to reveal something that would make people think less of me or my character. I wouldn't reveal my fetish, there are some things that ought to remain private.

[phopho]

My wife, various ex-GF's and close friends know the sort of stuff I like. I know the same about them. It's not exactly mainstream but it's not too far off. At the end of the day it's just wearing sexy outfits and playing around so it's pretty understandable even to people who don't share it.

[Femina]

Holy back peddling Batman, your original advice is bad advice - just own it

I've done no back peddling, you just took a wildly dishonest interpretation of what I said based upon a single sentence of an entire post, and ran with it in what Mr. X would call 'the strawman' inventing an argument I didn't make out of my words against which to argue because I didn't express myself flawlessly and it was very easy to twist out of context. Awsman asked for clarification which I gave. YOU just assumed I meant the worst possible thing I could mean, and ran with it, cause you're mad at me. I don't have the patience to play this game with you right now. My advice was presented in the understanding the author was speaking from an established relationship already. We aren't ALL so lucky or savy as you to have begun our relationships openly, honestly, or even AWARE AT ALL of what sexual fetishes we might come to have in the future... Your advice was perfectly fine (and in fact very GOOD advice) from a 'single' man or woman's perspective, but not of much use to folks who are already married, and I didn't then leap to a further extreme and come down on you begging all the married folks not to listen to your advice and tell them that you're essentially advising them to dump their spouses and ditch their families to go start relationships with men or women who share their fetishes, because YOU DIDN'T MAKE THAT ARGUMENT! I gave you the benefit of the doubt that you didn't mean anything you didn't expressly say, and didn't hunt down a single presented sentence of yours with which to invent your opinions out of thin air to attack you with, because you deserved the benefit of the doubt. How about a little good faith in return?

The obvious issue is once you come out and declare this fetish of ours to people we love, admire, and respect, there is no going back, once that is out there, one can't put that genie back in the bottle. It's a big risk, big, irreversible decision. I matters a lot to me how I am perceived by others, I would never want to reveal something that would make people think less of me or my character. I wouldn't reveal my fetish, there are some things that ought to remain private.

There's nothing wrong with this. People, ESPECIALLY in America (though idk if you're from the states or nothing) put an INSANE amount of effort into vilifying sexual proclivities of any kind. It's funny how in so many other countries, extreme violence is considered taboo while sex and nudity is treated more laissez faire while it's sort of the opposite in America. Go to Europe and tell someone your fetish they may just shrug and point you toward Amsterdam, tell someone in America your fetish and the reaction is likely to be a lot more uncomfortable and puritan, though it's my experience that the repercussions are always less than we imagine... but we can sometimes make a reasoned guess how specific someones may respond. I expect we all know at least a few people whose reactions we can guess with some confidence. My younger sister would almost certainly disown me as a gender traitor if I ever told her my fetishes xD She's a sort of traditionalist feminist in that way.

But you know... I don't WANT to know my sister's fetishes, and I'm certain that intense disinterest is mutual, so she's an easy person to keep it from right? I think the people the author of the thread is more interested in discussing (and feel free to correct me good author if I'm incorrect) are current romantic relationships, such as established spouses or girlfriend/boyfriends, to which I think holding on to sexual proclivities can potentially *feel* more dishonest with, even if I personally don't believe it is.

Returning now to just offering advice to the author. So let's phrase it this way: You don't OWE anyone knowledge of your sexual fetishes, so if you don't want to tell anyone, then just don't... it's not dishonest unless, I suppose, withholding the secret is actively harming them in some way. If you WANT to tell someone, like you just can't bear withholding the 'secret' anymore for one reason or another, I would start with my romantic partner first and foremost.

I think we can also agree, that this may be an entirely different conversation if you're actively IN THE INDUSTRY right? If somebody can just stumble upon one of your videos or something and recognize 'that's my daughter/mother/sister... wife!?' than you probably don't want it to come out that way, and may be more invested in making it known to your extended family.

[argento]

A few years ago, I read a story where Sasha Grey sparked controversy in a primary school. She came to the school to encourage reading in the students, and it was a huge success! However, a group of parents were furious after hearing about it, so they publicly attacked the educational institution.
That answers your question! We're all grown up here, so we know who to tell and who not to tell.

“Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people we personally dislike.”
Oscar Wilde.

[Mr. X]

Well at some point for producers you have to tell someone. My family wouldn't know what to do with my business if I pass away.

[Jusi]

Maybe when she was chained up spread-eagled by The Master Jailer?

[GWalb]

Back in the 1970's, my late wife was taking a female sexuality course, and the instructor suggested sharing their partner's sexual fantasies. My wife commented that her husband had a lot of magazines with pictures of naked girls in chains, being whipped and she thought she'd just as soon abstain. (Back then there was no available supheroine porn, even catfighting stuff was rare so one had to extrapolate) In spite of not wanting to be physically involved my wife was always understanding and found it amusing. In the 80's when we got a VCR she would watch any rentals I got with me, and had had some requests for some stuff that interested her which we watched together. My adult children and grand children know about my interests and knew where my stories were posted. (Unfortunately the Valkyrie site is now defunct. The proprietor unfortunately didn't take Mr. X's advice above regarding letting yr heirs know.) I have also told extended family, if they don't like it I'm sorry it's part of who I am.

[argento]

Maybe when she was chained up spread-eagled by The Master Jailer?

https://www.barnorama.com/sasha-grey-at ... ry-school/

[sneakly]

Maybe when she was chained up spread-eagled by The Master Jailer?

https://www.barnorama.com/sasha-grey-at ... ry-school/

I think I saw that movie… she was awesome.

It takes a lot of character to be a woman like Sasha Grey. If she was trying to work as a teacher, she would most likely have been successfully removed. People have lost jobs for a lot less.

I how much you expose your inner self to the outside world is a personal decision. At this stage in my life, a good relationship with another person would be more important than my sexual peccadilloes. I wouldn’t bring it up, because it isn’t that important anymore. If I were in my twenties today, the world is much more sexually open. Time and Place make a difference

[swampy170]

Personally, would far rather a pornstar in a wholesome outfit who doesn't appear to have a lewd bone in her body (plus is on the record as stating she would have loved to be a preschool teacher) come and read through a picture book with kids - than a man indulging in drag.

Indulge in your drag fetish all you want around adults, fill your thigh-high boots! But leave the kids out of it please.

Apologies if that's a hot take on a fetish site.

[Femina]

Personally, would far rather a pornstar in a wholesome outfit who doesn't appear to have a lewd bone in her body (plus is on the record as stating she would have loved to be a preschool teacher) come and read through a picture book with kids - than a man indulging in drag.

Indulge in your drag fetish all you want around adults, fill your thigh-high boots! But leave the kids out of it please.

Apologies if that's a hot take on a fetish site.

Afraid this is leaning incredibly close to politics. We're not allowed to talk about politics on this website, I get shouted down whenever I say anything left leaning. I don't think it's very fair if everyone else is allowed to casually spout right wing talking points and the rest of us just have to take it. Suffice it to say, the jury remains out on if Trans is a 'fetish' at all. Pornographic actress isn't a fetish either... it's an occupation. BOTH of the situations you're talking are essentially exactly the same thing at the level of 'intent'. Outrage against pornstars teaching children to read derives from a Christian fundamentalist bias that's seeped into American behavior since the Mayflower landed on our shores. Outrage against Trans folks teaching children to read derives from the same place, further sensationalized by the political climate... which is absolutely overblowing the prevalence of trans activity in the world. Meanwhile the porn star and trans individual simply wanted to teach children to read. I'm serious, your chances of running into a real trans human being is about the same as meeting a porn star... you're being mislead to imagine they are EVERYWHERE to utilize your fear as a voting outlet. Anyway, so long as ALL they're doing is teaching children to read, fundamentally there's no difference between the two.

I expect to be descended upon for 'dragging' politics into the space now despite the fact that I didn't start it.

[sneakly]

Personally, would far rather a pornstar in a wholesome outfit who doesn't appear to have a lewd bone in her body (plus is on the record as stating she would have loved to be a preschool teacher) come and read through a picture book with kids - than a man indulging in drag.

Indulge in your drag fetish all you want around adults, fill your thigh-high boots! But leave the kids out of it please.

Apologies if that's a hot take on a fetish site.

Not going to wade into politics, but this response illustrates the judgment that occurs with coming out over anything involving sexuality. Many a life has been ruined by what was a consensual activity and later weaponized either on social media, the workplace or divorce court.

There are quarters where my fetish stories would be taken extremely poorly. In some professions they would be weaponized to end careers. Anne Rice wrote erotica under a pen name. Main stream actors and actresses that did porn, usually don’t use the same names.

[HeroineFanboyReturns]

From my personal experience, I found that my girlfriend was into BDSM and also had nerdy hobbies. The rest was a no-brainer to connect the dots. It wasn’t a stretch to disclose my kink because combining these seemingly disparate interests into one was natural for her. I’d say if your partner already likes BDSM activities and/or dressing up in lingerie or costumes on Halloween then it’s reasonably safe to suggest combining those interests into the superheroine kink. They are essentially gateway drugs. That being said even if your partner isn’t into it then I don’t think it’s that embarrassing. There are plenty more unusual kinks my partners have asked me to engage in compared to dressing up in a costume.

Also, I don’t think disclosing the kink or asking your partner to wear a superheroine costume or engage in peril roleplay has to be such a monumental undertaking. For example, it all started for me because I got my partner lingerie with essentially a boob window in the top. I casually remarked how much the lingerie looked like Powergirl’s costume. Although my girlfriend is fairly knowledgeable about nerd culture, I nonetheless nonchalantly searched for a pic of Powergirl on my phone so she could see what I mean with regard to the boob window on both the lingerie and Powergirl’s costume. She then remarked how cute Powergirl’s costume looked and I then asked her if she’d wear that costume for me. She said yes and what started as her simply wearing a Powergirl costume to arouse me the same way she’d wear lingerie eventually turned into her wearing other superheroine costumes and gradually incorporating the BDSM she already enjoyed. And I never once had any kind of revelatory conversation with her about the kink.

And, in some alternate reality, if she had said she’s not interested in wearing a Powergirl costume then none of the rest would have happened. However, the conversation was such a natural transition from talking about her lingerie to talking about a superheroine that even if she had rejected the idea then I wouldn’t have been embarrassed and I doubt she would have ever remembered the conversation.

Finally, the reality is we don’t engage in superheroine peril roleplay all the time. It’s part of our intimacy but because it’s not all the time, it keeps my girlfriend eager to engage in the kink more. In a month, for example, we probably do a superheroine peril once and the rest of the time we do other things intimately together. But by keeping things diverse I’m able to enjoy consistent engagement with my kink. And fortunately when she does engage, we typically go all out with a storyline and everything, essentially creating a roleplay that captures what you see in the videos the producers on here release but always in the realm of fantasy.

I guess in the end to each his own, but I was glad to have taken a little risk for what has turned out to be an immeasurable reward (or, at least a reward once per month for me lolololol).

[bushwackerbob]

From my personal experience, I found that my girlfriend was into BDSM and also had nerdy hobbies. The rest was a no-brainer to connect the dots. It wasn’t a stretch to disclose my kink because combining these seemingly disparate interests into one was natural for her. I’d say if your partner already likes BDSM activities and/or dressing up in lingerie or costumes on Halloween then it’s reasonably safe to suggest combining those interests into the superheroine kink. They are essentially gateway drugs. That being said even if your partner isn’t into it then I don’t think it’s that embarrassing. There are plenty more unusual kinks my partners have asked me to engage in compared to dressing up in a costume.

Also, I don’t think disclosing the kink or asking your partner to wear a superheroine costume or engage in peril roleplay has to be such a monumental undertaking. For example, it all started for me because I got my partner lingerie with essentially a boob window in the top. I casually remarked how much the lingerie looked like Powergirl’s costume. Although my girlfriend is fairly knowledgeable about nerd culture, I nonetheless nonchalantly searched for a pic of Powergirl on my phone so she could see what I mean with regard to the boob window on both the lingerie and Powergirl’s costume. She then remarked how cute Powergirl’s costume looked and I then asked her if she’d wear that costume for me. She said yes and what started as her simply wearing a Powergirl costume to arouse me the same way she’d wear lingerie eventually turned into her wearing other superheroine costumes and gradually incorporating the BDSM she already enjoyed. And I never once had any kind of revelatory conversation with her about the kink.

And, in some alternate reality, if she had said she’s not interested in wearing a Powergirl costume then none of the rest would have happened. However, the conversation was such a natural transition from talking about her lingerie to talking about a superheroine that even if she had rejected the idea then I wouldn’t have been embarrassed and I doubt she would have ever remembered the conversation.
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The aspect of SHIP that is the most unseemly is non consent, which from my experiences on here, much to my surprise, is not quite a universal aspect for everybody in SHIP. Some folks just like women running around in superheroine costumes. The costume aspect is no big deal in the grand scheme of things, you could just chalk that up to a personal kink, but the non-consent part of that, especially in this "Me Too" minefield era could be a treacherous road to be publicly associated with, even when it is merely part of our fantasy lives, not something we would ever act on in the real world. I wonder if outsiders would be so understanding of that line between a fantasy non consent fetish and how one conducts themselves in the real world.

[SHL]

Personally, would far rather a pornstar in a wholesome outfit who doesn't appear to have a lewd bone in her body (plus is on the record as stating she would have loved to be a preschool teacher) come and read through a picture book with kids - than a man indulging in drag.

Indulge in your drag fetish all you want around adults, fill your thigh-high boots! But leave the kids out of it please.

Apologies if that's a hot take on a fetish site.

What does this have anything to do with the topic?

[MightyHypnotic]

Its a very good question!

Actually, the first thing that I ever posted, those Ningal pictures, the "model" was just a friend of mine and we talked about superheroines and how I'd like to make a video. So in that respect, yeah I discussed it with at least ONE close friend. I also had friends that colllected comics (WAY better collections than mine) and so it was never really spoken but generally accepted that we had superheroine fetishes.

But when I started producing, I didn't really announce it to my friends or family or anything. I just started doing it. It's an easier path of life to not have to explain it.
However, through my sites, I met some local fans who wound up helping me produce some of the earlier vids, we hung out and shared story ideas, etc.. I don't really see the point in telling people who aren't associated with the industry, I don't know what I would gain from that.

[Mr. X]

My GF in college was big time into chloro fantasy. Had dozens of romance novels. Was big into wanting to be kidnapped. I, of course, was a scared to death, naive boy who had no idea what to do. Ended badly.

[SHL]

Ended badly.

I know you didn't mean for it too but this sounds like a murder confession, lol

[Mr. X]

Ended badly.

I know you didn't mean for it too but this sounds like a murder confession, lol

HAHAHA! Didn't think about it that way

[tmon]

Back in the 1970's, my late wife was taking a female sexuality course, and the instructor suggested sharing their partner's sexual fantasies. My wife commented that her husband had a lot of magazines with pictures of naked girls in chains, being whipped and she thought she'd just as soon abstain. (Back then there was no available supheroine porn, even catfighting stuff was rare so one had to extrapolate) In spite of not wanting to be physically involved my wife was always understanding and found it amusing. In the 80's when we got a VCR she would watch any rentals I got with me, and had had some requests for some stuff that interested her which we watched together. My adult children and grand children know about my interests and knew where my stories were posted. (Unfortunately the Valkyrie site is now defunct. The proprietor unfortunately didn't take Mr. X's advice above regarding letting yr heirs know.) I have also told extended family, if they don't like it I'm sorry it's part of who I am.

Well at least theValkyrie site is still reachable with Wayback!!

[PartsUnknown]

Great question, I’m glad someone brought this up as I was curious about this as well.

In short, I would say no but they can probably fill in many of the blanks.

SHIP isn’t the only kink I have. I grew up on 80s horror and as long as I could remember I got a thrill out of seeing the stereotypical half-naked girl getting chased by the killer. Everyone who knows me knows I’m a horror geek, so that peril element definitely scratches an specific itch in my brain.

I’m also a huge fan of athletic girls, particularly ones that wear skimpy clothing like gymnasts, cheerleaders, dancers and track girls. My friends have always known I’m into athletic girls because those are the types I usually went for. My friends also know that I find superheroines attractive — I remember telling them how psyched I was when DC revealed Gal Gadaot’s Wonder Woman costume and when Olivia Munn wore a comic-accurate Psylocke costume in X-Men: Apocalypse.

My wife was a collegiate gymnast. She knows how attractive I find it that she used to wear a leotard and do cool flips and amazing stunts. As others have pointed out on this board, a lot of gymnasts and other female athletes often resemble superheroines. When I found out she used to dress up as Wonder Woman for Halloween, complete with WW leotard, I found that attractive too. We watch a lot of college gymnastics together and while I appreciate the athleticism and understand how hard they work and respect them as athletes, she knows I don’t mind seeing fit college girls shaking their asses either, and she’s cool with it.

So while my wife and my closest friends know I’m into all those things, I haven’t shared that I’m into the superheroine peril. I’m not even sure they know those films exist. At this point I don’t see it as a shameful thing — at least with friends and family, I don’t really see the point in bringing it up unless it comes up organically. My family and I don’t talk about that kind of stuff, so I don’t see it ever happening there.

For my wife or previous girlfriends, I never really saw a need to bring role play into the bedroom. I don’t need those fetish elements in order to be turned on, I can be turned on by a lot of other more conventional things. And these days, we have a toddler and we’re trying for a second kid, so when we have sex it’s more like fitting it in our schedule while the kid is asleep or away; that doesn’t leave a lot of time for changing into costumes and acting things out, lol. Maybe if we feel the need to spice things up one day, who knows.