I need your help...*again* to help provide advice for newcomer 'Nameless'. It seems he's fallen into a 'Burmese Tiger Pit' with a performer/producer and though he's dangling on the edge, I just don't see anyway that my homegirl and I can pull him up this time as he's really in a jam.
Earlier this year (back in January) he emailed a very popular M.I.L.F. performer (who will remain nameless for the time being to avoid scrutiny) to do a small, simple custom request. The request was only a half a page with a run-time of ten minutes. The performer asked for $400.00 and Nameless paid that, so I'm thinking to myself 'Hmm. Ten minutes, half a page script for $400 bucks...should be pretty simple to put together in no time flat, right?'
Well for some reason, this performer neglected to tell Nameless what her schedule was going to be like for the next couple of months after he asked for a progress report within those two weeks. She informed him that she was going to the A.V.N. awards as a nominee and she would be traveling to two different states within that month. So Nameless was professional and patient and he waited till around close to March to contact her again. Her excuse that time was that she was the victim of a 'hack attack' and she was working on getting her stuff set-up again. Again, he patiently waited until the middle of March to contact her again.
She tells him that the performer that *she* had selected (Nameless didn't get to choose anybody, she chose the performer without letting him know about it first) who she normally performs with wasn't allowed to do fetish vids with her anymore because she was dating some guy and that she had somebody else lined up to take her place. But then this 'other girl' that she selected got 'cold feet' and abandoned the project before they could begin. So when it looked like this project wasn't going to get off of its feet, Nameless politely asked for a refund and this lady's response to him was 'Hey. I don't have your money sitting around like a bank. I've got your request, it'll get done'. (Now, I gotta be honest folks: from here, it looks like Nameless had walked into the claws of a scam-artist and that was my worst fear as he continued to tell me his story).
So he waited again until the beginning or middle of May to contact the performer again for another update and to try and suggest someone himself since this M.I.L.F. performer had been compensated ahead of time and hadn't made any real progress to create the custom he gave her. When he emailed her in regards to the custom's progress, she got him confused with another customer, asked for the script that he had sent her three times in a row in the earlier months when she lost it and then turned around and told him that she was getting the exact same girl again who got cold feet the first time and that she'd commence production in July. This didn't sit well with Nameless at all and he told her that she'd be better off choosing someone else or letting him choose as he had his doubts about this performer's reliability that the M.I.L.F. wanted to utilize. Eventually, he gave some conditions along with an ultimatum (and I think that's where Nameless kinda messed up at): complete the production within the specified time or return the funds that were given and above all else, make sure her co-star doesn't 'run off' again before production begins. The lady's response to that was: 'Hey, I can't control what other people do. It'll get done." For some reason, this lady was determined to hang onto his money but wan't very concerned with hanging onto the customer or attempting to stay on good terms with him or even stay on his good side (and Nameless' patience was wearing thin). The fact that she wasn't even apologetic for the delays is what seemed to be the real slap in the face.
So July arrived and he gave her a friendly reminder about the request. She responded and then she asked some question about the wardrobe and it sounded like she was trying to change something around that he didn't want her to change. Eventually, Nameless got fed up with her and got kinda uppity with her and she got pissed with him saying, 'Don't be an asshole when I ask a simple fucking question'.
After Nameless cooled down, he apologized for his behavior but reminded her that she was kinda picking a bad time to inquire about wardrobe requests since July had already arrived and he presumed that she was working on getting things together after their last talk in May. He's awaiting on a response from her this month but he's concerned now that the exchange between them may have really caused problems. In my personal opinion, the rift began when this lady failed to stay on point and stay on time with things.
Producers, custom clients, what should a customer do when they encounter a situation like this with a producer? I mean, Nameless gave this particular performer all the time in the world to take a stab at this custom but it looks more like she's kinda jerkin' his chain with the slow 'turnaround' time for his idea. Now don't get me wrong, performers are gonna have their bad days, it happens. But there's a lot to this situation that just doesn't make any sense:
-Like, why would she bother to take the request if she already had other plans that would prevent her from working on the custom?
-Since Nameless paid good money up front (mind you, they didn't get to go into detail much about the custom when she accepted it. She just accepted it and didn't really ask for any details), why isn't he allowed to choose the performer himself?
-Here's the biggest kicker: since it seems that this lady is extremely busy, why didn't she just refund the money and suggest another time to try again with the request? I mean, this lady has been compensated and it's like she's trying to hold onto the reward without giving back what was promised for it.
Long story short, he's trying to give this performer the benefit of the doubt but everytime he gives her an inch, she's taking two miles. So what's the best way for a customer to address an issue with delays without stepping on the producer's toes about it (even after they've been patient for so long)? I mean, six months is a long time people and that's how long it should take to build a house not do a custom request.





